Hey Reader,

We need gamification!!

We need a checklist at signup, because users don’t like leaving jobs unfinished. That’s certainty. They want a clear path, closure, and to know what's next.

We need badges and progress markers, because users like feeling recognized. That’s status. They need to feel like they’re getting somewhere and that it matters.

We need customizable flows and smart defaults, because users don’t like being forced into decisions. That’s autonomy. Give them agency, or they’ll leave.

We need social proof and shared milestones, because users like knowing others are doing it too. That’s relatedness. People follow people.

We need transparent rules and fair outcomes, because users don’t like being tricked or cheated. That’s fairness. Hidden fees, unclear logic. Instant churn.

Gamification works not because it’s “fun” but because it regulates these five core reward/threat systems.

You're not just optimizing for clicks. You're optimizing for the human brain.

I know this one’s a bit a tad academic, feels a bit preachy. But it matters. Because so much of what you’re trying to do comes down to one thing… How people feel. And I think this framework might help you think a little differently.

We all optimize our startup for output. Totally fair, makes sense, follows the playbook. Better onboarding. Better revenue. Better UI.

But what if you optimized for psychological inputs? People don’t buy, convert, refer, or stick around because of your funnel. They do it because something in their brain makes them feel safe. Seen. In control.

You can name it whatever you want. A user behavior issue, churn, friction, UX, you can take it one step further…. If they would just try it, they would see how fab it is. But assuming you don’t have a non-solution to a non-problem that no one wants… It almost always maps back to a violated SCARF driver.

SCARF is a model developed by David Rock:

• Status: Am I valued here?
• Certainty: Do I know what’s coming next?
• Autonomy: Do I get to choose?
• Relatedness: Am I in this with others?
• Fairness: Am I being treated justly?

It’s the invisible OS of human motivation. When you align with it, it makes it easy for people to lean in and when you violate it? They don’t. Pretty binary.

It’s something you actually need to think about because you rarely see a SCARF violation in your Posthog recording…

Most of the time, you’re violating it without knowing.

Let me put this in context. You’ve built what looks like the cleanest flow to get your users to do the thing. Users drop in, move through the steps, but still don’t convert or they do but don’t stick.

You tweak. Add features. Tweak more. More features. Nothing really changes. But what if it’s not the flow, but how the flow feels?

You tried to make it frictionless, the mandate of every UX podcast. But maybe you violated Autonomy by boxing them into a forced path (the "skip for now"). Maybe you removed Certainty by not showing what comes next in the process. You forgot Status so users felt like inputs, not adored users. The product worked. But the experience didn’t.

You’re trying to manufacture outcomes but at the cost of how people feel while getting there.

That’s SCARF. That’s emotional friction. And it’s why a perfect funnel still fails.

This is the groundwork to empathy. Put yourself in your user’s shoes.

But not the “think like your customer” empathy, this is neurological empathy. Understanding what their brain is actually doing when they interact with your product.

Most founders think empathy means caring about users. It does. But caring doesn’t tell you why they bounce at step 3 of onboarding. Caring doesn’t explain why your landing page doesn’t convert.

SCARF empathy does. Because it forces you to think like a brain, not a founder.

Here’s your SCARF audit:

Walk through your product like a paranoid user. At every step, ask what their brain is actually thinking:

“What happens next?” (Certainty) - If they can’t answer this instantly, you’ve got uncertainty. They leave.

“Am I doing this right?” (Status) - If they can’t tell if they’re winning or failing, you’ve got a status threat. They leave.

“Do I have to do this their way?” (Autonomy) - If they feel trapped in your flow with no choices, you’ve got control issues. They leave.

“Is anyone else here?” (Relatedness) - If they feel like the only person using your product, you’ve got isolation. They leave.

“Are they being straight with me?” (Fairness) - If anything feels hidden or unfair, you’ve triggered their scam-o-meter. They leave.

Do this audit not on your analytics dash, not delegated. You. In your actual product, thinking like your users think.

All of this to say, that your users are emotional pattern machines. They’re not just optimizing for speed or outcomes. They’re constantly scanning every interaction and it’s doing one of two things:

Reinforces safety + motivation or Triggers uncertainty + withdrawal

So while most product advice ends with:

“Make it easier.” “Remove friction.” “Add delight.”

Which you should. Also. Maybe, just maybe, do the SCARF audit.

Do they feel certain? Do they feel progress? Do they feel in control? Do they feel connected? Do they feel respected? > Feels like a fair and reasonable set of questions.

It doesn’t matter what you built. People don’t act on what they see. They act on how they feel.

If I can be of service, feel free to grab time.

LFG.

-- James

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